Covenant of Right Relations2016-12-06T14:31:49+00:00

The Covenant of Right Relations

Miami Valley Unitarian Universalist Fellowship

As I enter this sacred space, I will do my part to create a loving, welcoming environment.
I promise to respect and nurture others in their lifelong spiritual journeys.
I will speak with directness and empathy, especially in times of disagreement.
I will strive to understand other points of view, focusing on the goal
of building the beloved community within these walls and in the wider world.

“As I enter this sacred space, I will do my part to create a loving, welcoming environment.”

  • Greeting people warmly
  • Getting acquainted with others
  • Treating visitors as fellow worshipers
  • Welcoming newcomers into conversation
  • Accepting and embracing diversity, remembering that people can be diverse in many ways, such as:

Ethnicity, Religion, Beliefs,
Age, Economic Status, Ability,
Gender Identification, Sexual Orientation, Race

“I promise to respect and nurture others in their lifelong spiritual journeys.”

  • Respecting different cultural and faith traditions
  • Embracing our spiritual diversity
  • Observing personal boundaries
  • Honoring confidentiality
  • Recognizing, encouraging, and appreciating the contributions and talents of other members
  • Challenging each other to grow
  • Remembering that everyone is both a student and a teacher in the search for meaning

“I will speak to others with directness and empathy, especially in times of disagreement.”

  • Being gentle with one another when in conflict
  • Treating conflict as an opportunity to grow and explore a new direction
  • Making every effort to settle differences directly and openly
  • Focusing on issues and behaviors, not personalities
  • Testing personal assumptions; examining personal motives
  • Avoiding the divisiveness that comes from encouraging people to take sides
  • Striving for mutual respect but not for unanimity
  • When feeling hurt, speaking to the person who caused the hurt
  • Speaking for my own experiences and understanding, using “I” statements rather than “You” statements; explaining how an action affects me (I felt) rather than blaming another (You did)
  • Consulting with the Right Relations Committee when needed

“I will strive to understand other points of view…”

  • Assuming that people have good intentions
  • Demonstrating respect by listening without rushing to judgment
  • Listening compassionately and with an open heart and mind
  • Being receptive, listening with care and compassion
  • Being truthful, speaking with care and compassion
  • Staying engaged through difficult conversations
  • Taking responsibility for hearing all sides
  • Being accountable for words and actions
  • Forgiving myself and others

“…focusing on the goal of building the beloved community within these walls and in the wider world.”

  • Participating in congregational life
  • Supporting leaders with input and feedback
  • Becoming a leader
  • Stepping up and helping out
  • Putting my Sunday best on inside
  • Serving with compassion and commitment
  • Engaging with those I perceive as different from me
  • Supporting Fellowship involvement in the larger secular and religious community
  • Promoting social justice programs
  • Actively confront assumptions through critical and studied examination of the forces that disadvantage some and privilege others within this congregation and in society

November, 2012